I, You, We – The Evolution of a Leader

Stephen Covey in his classic book 7 Habits of Effective People suggests personal evolution can be achieved from dependency via independence to the ideal state of interdependence. These stages are sequential, variable in time spent and each stage is defined by the individual’s primary area of focus.

I believe there is a parallel evolution for leaders, which also has 3 stages, is sequential, and is varying in time spent per stage. 

 

  • The first stage is characterised by leaders who are primarily concerned with themselves, their vision, their ambitions, & their investment. The default pronoun is I.

  • A realisation occurs; they realise they can’t operate alone, so switch focus to the needs of their stakeholders (employees, customers, shareholders, etc). Their default pronoun becomes YOU. This is a progression of sorts but transfers accountability away from them.

  • The final stage of evolution, which I don’t believe all leaders reach, is where they align their personal and stakeholder needs, into a single unifying vision. At this stage, their default pronoun is WE. There is shared accountability and reward in place.

 

Like most theories this is perhaps simplistic; however, it still begs the question, where are you currently on the evolutionary scale?

Nick Cramp

Nick Cramp is the Joint-Founder of The Rethink Collective, a partnership that challenges traditional growth paradigms by emphasising the philosophy of “Better Before Bigger.”; Nick has nearly three decades of experience in leadership coaching, guiding business leaders to prioritise sustainable success and personal well-being over unchecked expansion.

His approach addresses common entrepreneurial challenges such as overwhelm, isolation, and work-life balance, helping leaders reclaim energy and focus. Nick empowers clients to navigate complexity with clarity through in-depth strategy work and immersive retreats, fostering resilience and intentional leadership. His insights continue to inspire leaders to rethink growth and achieve fulfilment in both business and life.

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